Put yourself in Other people shoes

Tema hari ni: put yourself in other people shoes. You may understand them better.

Sepanjang perjalanan (err... not during the flight of course) wassap group rakan2 skolah i x putus2 dgn message. One thing that i luv about this group (let's call it group puteri - our boarding school panggil pelajar perempuannya pelajar puteri) everybody is so sporting and open when it come to sharing opinion.

topic of discussion - how to handle teenagers (yes...anak2 kawan i ramai yg nak meningkat remaja dah). It was a lively discussion, with everybody sharing their experience and opinion. A friend pointed out that we need to understand them. Teenager is an awkward age. Macam lagu britney spears - not a girl, not yet a woman (well, the person who brought up the issue has a teenage girl). We need to be in their shoes, and by doing that of course kami mengimbau kembali zaman2 kami ketika remaja and how we acted at that time. To see the resemblance and also the difference (with technologies & media social influences) and perhaps being more understanding parent.

And again, during my flight to Bintulu. A baby (less than a year i believe) menangis sepanjang flight masa berlepas and during the flight start to descend sampai la mendarat. May be air pressure changes kat telinga kot yg menyebabkan baby tu rasa sakit and nangis. Menangis kuat sangat, macam kena dera la...  semua serba tak kena. A few times the stewardess check the baby and the mother, should the mother needs any help (i duduk satu row ngan diorang, but opposite side). I can only wonder how the mother would feel. And luckyly, it seems that everybody in the flight really understanding on the situation, coz tak de pulop yg complaint or anything. But i bet the mother pun mesti rasa helpless x tau nak buat cemana... (ada cara ke nak relief air pressure for baby yg naik kpl terbang eh?)

And lastly, to share my story... This happened long time ago at my old offices. I can't remember what was exactly we were talking about. Perhaps about me needed to take medical leave for my laparascopy operation and they need to cover me for a while (of course after that they asked why so i just explained my condition and my treatment). A colleague of mine did say "Akak ni pantang kena sentuh, mesti pregnant". I was like... huh??? to say that to me when i was in 'kind of sad' situation... huhuhu...sungguh tak sensitif. I don't need that kind of comment and comparison. And being only in 3rd year of marriage and receive comment like that, it really bothered me at that time. (Now, I couldn't care less. I'm that happy with my life :-) ).

So the message of this writing (i couldn't sleep tonight by the way...) put yourself in other people shoes, it may make u understand them better, and so that you would not give comment or do something that would hurt other people.

Sekian...
(mata...pls la tido...)